|Don't be fooled - I was shaking like a leaf !!|
The other day me and Brown Bear were watching Blue Peter and he said, "Look Mummy they're going skydiving like we did." I hadn't exactly forgotten, but it had escaped me how momentous that was. Not least as he was only 4 when we did it. It wasn't out of a plane - I wouldn't push my 4 year old out of a plane, I'm not a sadist - it was in a wind tunnel thing. We both had a go and it was exhilarating and exciting. He was the youngest child there and so brave to have done it.
On our summer holiday in Cornwall last year we had a surfing lesson together. I'd wanted him to have a go for ages and when he turned 5 he was old enough and he asked me to go with him. We had such a blast.
Since then we've done a park run - which he did not enjoy, but I held his hand so he could get all the way round and he was very proud to finish. He hasn't wanted to do it again though so clearly not a runner.
The bonding that comes from doing these things together is great. As well as being active and having fun we also now have in-jokes that he drops into conversation when I least expect them. It makes me smile when he does that.
I wasn't a risk taker as a child. It's not something that was encouraged in my family so I didn't really try new things or consider myself capable of doing much. I take a very different approach with my children. They are already so much braver than I've ever been and it's made me more adventurous as a result.
I am so delighted when they try something new and succeed at it. They do all the things I wish for them and more. Things like:
Dance freely and without inhibition
Enjoy the outdoors in any weather
Draw without any fear of it not being 'right' or 'perfect'
Choose clothes that they love and wear them until they are wet, filthy and (usually) full of holes
Make friends with children they've just met and play with them like old pals
Run up and give me cuddles and kisses when they feel like it and shake their heads vigorously when they don't want to
So this year I'm taking a leaf from their book. I'm going to be brave and silly and I'm going to enjoy being Mum.